No person ever sets out to ruin their lives. It’s impossible to find someone that will make a New Year’s resolution to ruin their life.
Children don’t daydream about how much they’d love to become alcoholics in the future. Students don’t attend classes on how to go bankrupt.
Couples don’t dress up, spend so much money on a wedding, and show up at the altar while planning to get a divorce a few years later.
The point is, nobody plans to fail. But failure happens whether we like it or not.
And our failures are the result of our choices. We often don’t willingly make choices that we know will cause us to fail.
So, how can we avoid making poor decisions that will end up ruining our lives? These ideas can help:
- Stop entertaining the idea that your actions don’t have consequences. You may think you’re doing it for fun, but your actions have consequences.
– For example, if you fail to pay your bills, you may get chased down by a debt collector. If you tell a lie, you may upset others. If you smoke, you may eventually develop emphysema.
– Whatever happens, every action you take has a consequence. And you can’t change the consequences or pick and choose what will happen.
– Your actions either lead you to your goals or lead you away from your dreams. It’s the difference between winning and losing.
- Live within your means. It is always better to plan and make smart financial decisions. Today, many people have no problem living beyond their means because they believe that it’s okay.
– Unfortunately, this will only lead to a difficult financial situation in the future. The social media lifestyle causes a lot of people to get carried away with the allure of a lifestyle they know they can’t afford.
– To avoid this trap, focus on what matters the most in your life. Many older people today are paying for things they accepted years ago. They still have mortgages, kids, and day-to-day costs that they have trouble covering.
– They scrimp on health care and end up sick for a long time.
- Break any forms of addiction, including drugs, pornography, or shopping. Habits like these have a very negative impact on your life. The sad reality is, many people suffer some form of addiction today.
– Addictions lead to feelings of loneliness, and they don’t fill your life with good things. Some even cost your life. People find it challenging to break addictions because they feed them.
– It doesn’t take a single day to form a habit – it usually requires repetition to develop one. An alcoholic doesn’t become one by drinking one beer. The more he drinks, the stronger the addiction becomes.
– Eventually, he has no choice but to keep drinking. That’s the case with most addictions. Anything that is a drug or habit-forming has the potential to ruin your life.
– The solution? Stop feeding them.
- Avoid assuming that you’re the only one going through your painful situation. Sometimes we gravitate towards others who share our problems, but it’s all too easy to think no one else exists out there who’s struggling like us.|
– The truth is, you’re not alone. And thinking you’re alone is usually just an excuse you give yourself.
– Instead of making such assumptions, why not reach out? Talk to others and tell them what’s going through your mind. You might discover that they’re going through something similar. Once you’ve connected with those around you, you’ll be able to realize you’re not alone.
There are so many things that can ruin our lives. And sometimes, we only need to look at the path others ahead of us have set to realize what a mistake we make to live a certain way. And that’s okay, because this isn’t the end. We haven’t given up. We’re only getting started.